1. Allow a child to do for himself. The more a child does for self the more confident he will feel. Don’t be so quick to jump in and do for a child what he can do for himself.
  2. Give limited choices to encourage decision-making and problem-solving. Don’t be so quick to give advice and tell a child what to do.
  3. Invite a child to share in home management. Asking questions is the first step – Where do you think we should keep …? Who do you think should be responsible for …? Are you willing to help…?
  4. Appreciate every contribution no matter how small. The words thank you go a long way in teaching and winning cooperation.
  5. Model respectful language. I feel annoyed when you interrupt. Can you wait until I am finished? Thank you.
  6. Keep the home routine sacred. Use the words It’s time to.
  7. Allow a child the consequences of his behavior. Don’t be so quick to step in and block the learning.
  8. Speak the language of encouragement – Can do instead of can’t. Do instead of don’t.
  9. Limit “stuff”. Find a “home” for everything and expect a child to put it there. When a child can’t find something allow them to experience the consequence which teaches how important order is.
  10. Refer to “mistakes” as an opportunity to learn. Ask, What can you do differently the next time?

Self-confidence is the key to a successful learner.